I can't think of too many things more stressful on couples than dealing with infertility. Add in the holidays and it can become unbearable. From www.about.com I found some helpful hints for couples to use during the holidays in coping with the extra pressure, regardless of fertility issues or not.

What The Two of You Can Do
Eat healthy meals and drink plenty of water.

Watch how much caffeine you consume and try to cut back on it.

Make sure you discuss money and how much you both are comfortable spending on gifts.

Set a holiday budget together and stick to it.

Talk over your expectations of the holidays with each other.

Know your limits with what you can and can't do.

Remind one another that it is okay to say "no".

Keep visits to or with family reasonable and well planned.

Realize that the holidays probably won't be perfect.

Look at all you have accomplished and at how well things are going rather than looking at what hasn't been done.

The article provides a link to breathing exercises for couples as well. Here are their suggestions:

Reduce Stress
Reduce stress in your lives by making time to breathe together.

Find a comfortable chair for each of you. Keep your feet flat on the floor. Don't slouch or cross your legs.

Don't have anything on your laps.

Don't wear tight clothing.

Take a few deep breaths to settle yourselves.

Breathe deeply through your nose. Let the air out through your mouth. Repeat five to ten times.
If you are breathing correctly, your tummy should move out about an inch or so.


Also try focusing your attention on each part of your body to relax. Most folks start with their toes.

A good way to end the breathing session is to think about a favorite place or a favorite activity for a few minutes.