I know how difficult it can be keeping your marriage sane during the trials of infertility. I remember our communication hitting a stand still while I was only crying to convey my emotions, with Chris just being silent in disbelief, I'm sure, wondering if I would ever get better. There are a lot of memories that I don't recall from that time, but one thing that I do remember is that towards the end of my intensive mourning, I was thinking that in reaching out and grasping for a child, I was letting go of my marriage.

Thankfully, it never came down to a choice between the two. And, as you know, we are still together. But times were rocky here and there. It is really scary to think of what could have happened. And in reality, what could happen still.

This week we celebrated our 6 year anniversary. We realized tonight that we had two date nights in a row, thanks to our trusted sitter. Saturday was spent at a gourmet dinner with champagne. Tonight we went to see a movie, then killed time before coming home wandering the aisles at Target. Two date nights in a row...Unheard of since the kids arrived. And very rare even before they got here.

Dating my husband isn't something that I thought I would have to do once we got married. There are many times when we don't arrange for down time together and things get very tense. So, if the relationship area is a little lacking lately, maybe a date night could help? Seeing a movie is low key and doesn't require a ton of social skill if you can't barely stand to look at each other. Wandering a book store can also be an individual and social date. Whatever works for the both of you.