Continuing with the grief list and my personal story with miscarriage, I will be addressing this issue today:

to be unable to do what other women seem easily able to do as a 'natural part of life' and our jealousy and anger of that

My miscarriage was my first experience with troubled pregnancies. In my family history there were many stories about pregnancy and baby loss, but none in my generation. I am the oldest of six kids and out of the first three, I was the last to try to have kids. My brother and... more

From the list of Grief Issues I posted yesterday, I'm going to explore the loss of innocence for future pregnancies.

I didn't understand that this issue would be a problem for me until I got pregnant again and again after my first miscarriage. The starry-eyed wonder and excitement from first finding out that I was pregnant was first replaced with hope, and then in the last pregnancy, extreme fear. The first time that I became pregnant, I couldn't wait to take the pregnancy test. I told myself that I was going to wait until my period was just a few days late. Well, that didn't work out. I got myself into such a frenzy one morning that I drove to the drugstore and came home with... more

I just can't seem to stay away from the New Zealand site, Miscarriage Support Aukland Inc. I have written about it before, in my post Miscarriage at Home. Again, here is the link, miscarriage support.

In their grief section, they offer a lot of issues that are related to miscarriage. I hadn't seen such a comprehensive list as this and will reprint it here:

the loss of the festivities of a joyous birth and perhaps future ones the loss of our dreams for this child and the future our family would have had together - we had made plans for life the loss of being able to call ourselves... more